Contemplating separation and divorce is daunting enough… but for parents the inevitable questions loom; “What do we tell the children?” and “How do we tell the children?” I have put together some guidance which has been gathered from my experience in the last 25 years of working in this area and I hope that by sharing this knowledge freely with you it will help make things much easier and clearer for you and your family. I hope to help you to help your children. Guidance You have the first key already in your own question, “we” – you do tell them together. You need to agree what you do not tell them. They should never be...
Read MoreSeparation and divorce: circumstances you never thought you would find yourself in. Knowing that divorce happens to more than one in three marriages does not help you cope with how tough it is. Most people feel vulnerable and frightened. We know divorce is one of the biggest life events we face. Just because it is a normal life event doesn’t make it easier to cope with. Most of us do not cope well with change, particularly when we have to cope with long periods of uncertainty as to what will happen. There are also many different parts and aspects of the relationship that are coming to an end. A decision may have been made by you or your spouse to end the relationship or...
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